Allaah commands you to be good to women

Al-Miqdaam bin Ma`dee Karib (رضي الله عنه) narrated that the Prophet ﷺ stood among the people (and gave a speech), praising Allaah then saying:

Allaah commands you to be good to women, Allaah commands you to be good to women, for they are your mothers, your daughters, your maternal aunts. A man from the People of the Book marries a woman without any thread in her hands yet neither of them parts from the other [until they both pass away in old age].”

Shaikh al-Albaani:

“His statement: without any thread in her hands’ alludes to her being young and poor. In An-Nihaayah: Al-Harbi said: i.e. due to her youth and lack of gentleness, so he would have patience with her until they would both pass away in old age. The intent was to urge his companions to follow the command regarding women and to have patience with them, i.e. the People of the Book would do that with their women.’

I say: They used to do so when they had good character and piety even with a changed religion. Today, on the other hand, they forbid divorce -which Allaah has allowed- and allow fornication and even homosexuality openly!”

[as-silsilah as-saheehah 2871/]

Having weddings in the mosque is an innovation

Q: “What is the ruling on having a wedding in the mosque?”

Shaikh al-Albaani:

“An innovation.”

[silsilat ul-hudaa wa nnoor 132/17 / asaheeha translations]

Is marriage fate or a choice?

Q: “Is marriage fate or a choice?”

Shaikh al-Albaani:

“What is the difference between this question and the question: (is it fate or a choice that) one is rich and another is poor, and one is beautiful and one is ugly, and so on. No doubt what is decreed for a person is something that will happen and there is none that can avert it. But he is responsible for making the effort; after that, he is not at fault for the outcome of the matter if it happens contrary to his choice.

So if this person got engaged to a woman and was eager to do so as she was righteous, then with time it became clear that she was evil! Of course, this was fate. But everything happens as decreed, like the Prophet ﷺ said: ‘Everything happens as decreed, even laziness and activeness.’[1] However, this does not mean that a person, within his capabilities, is not responsible for striving to choose that which is good. No, this is something else. So a person must strive, then the rest is up to Allaah تبارك وتعالى.

So the answer is: of course it is fate, but we shouldn’t understand that it is fate and so -as some people say- a person just puts his trust in Allaah and that’s it. No, (rather) he takes the means, then he puts his trust in the Lord of all lords.”[2]

[silsilatul hudaa wa nnoor 134/5]

[1] Saheeh Muslim 2655
[2] ‘lords’ meaning masters, owners and the like

Marriage is fardh and not just a sunnah

-Continuing a discussion on marriage-

Shaikh al-Albaani:

“Marriage, I believe, is fardh (an obligation) and not just a sunnah.”

[silsilat ul-hudaa wa nnoor 224/21 / asaheeha translations]

Allaah is the Creator of both good and evil

The Prophet ﷺ said: “If you marry a woman or buy a slave, place your hand on her forehead, say ‘bismillaah’ and supplicate for blessing and say:

اللَّهُمَّ إِنِّي أَسْأَلُكَ مِنْ خَيْرِهَا وَخَيْرِ مَا جَبَلْتَهَا عَلَيْهِ وَأَعُوذُ بِكَ مِنْ شَرِّهَا وَشَرِّ مَا جَبَلْتَهَا عَلَيْهِ
(O Allaah, indeed I ask You for the good in her and the good characteristics that You created in her, and I seek refuge in You from the evil in her and the evil characteristics that You created in her)

And if you buy a camel, place your hand on top of its hump and say the same.”[1]

Shaikh al-Albaani:

“This hadeeth has evidence that Allaah is the Creator of good and evil, contrary to those – such as the Mu`tazilah and others – who hold that evil is not from His creation تبارك وتعالى. There is nothing in Allaah’s being Creator of evil that contradicts His Perfection تعالى, rather it is from His Perfection تبارك وتعالى. Details of that are present in comprehensive volumes, one of the best being the book Shifaa ul-`aleel fi l-qadhaa.i wa l-qadari wa tta`leel by Ibn ul-Qayyim, so look through it if you wish.

And is this supplication legislated when buying something like a car? My answer is: yes, due to the good that is hoped from it and the evil that is feared from it.”

[1] Saheeh Abu Daawood 2160, Saheeh al-Jaami` 360 and others

[aadaab uz-zifaaf 20-21 / asaheeha translations]