source: silsilat ul-hudaa wa nnoor – the series of guidance and light – tape no. 132
Question #9: “What is the ruling on women dancing amongst themselves at weddings?”
Shaykh al-Albaani (rahimahullaah) answers:
“There is no dancing, not amongst men, nor amongst women; not men with men, nor women with women, because this dancing is accompanied by a lot of nonsense which a Muslim is far above, specially since the women would be showing their charms in front of one other, and this is not allowed in Islaam.
All there is to this affair is that it is allowed for women to sing during weddings in particular, and (the singing) should be decent and respectable, not having any foul words in it, nor being from the songs that are sung by the rebellious and disobedient (to Allaah) and shameless singers. Rather, it should have a nice and beautiful meaning, as mentioned in the hadeeth of ‘Aaisha (radiAllaahu ‘anhaa) when the Messenger (of Allaah) (sallAllaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam) asked her: ‘Where are you coming from?’ She said: ‘From a wedding of the Ansaar.’ He said: ‘Did you sing for them (the women)?, for the Ansaar love singing.’ She said: ‘What would we say O Messenger of Allaah?’
He said: ‘You say:
Ataynaakum ataynaakum * Fahayyoonaa nuhayyikum
We came to you, we came to you * So greet us and we greet you’
Is there anything (bad) in these words? There isn’t anything.
‘Ataynaakum ataynaakum * Fahayyoonaa nuhayyikum
We came to you, we came to you * So greet us and we greet you
Wa law laa l-hintat us-samraa * i-lam tasman ‘adhaaraakum
If it wasn’t for the black wheat * Your virgins would not have been plump (and beautiful)’
They are good and clean words. If the singing is of this type, then there is no objection to it.”
click below to hear the poetry portion recited by the Shaykh:
 Aadaab uz-Zifaaf p. 108-109, Tahreem Aalaat it-Tarab: 133